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Up for a Boat Trip? April 28, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Elizabeth @ 10:11 PM

I totally stole this from my friend Lynn’s blog!! She is adopting as well (twins from Russia!!), and knows how rough the adoption journey can be.

Different Trips to the Same Place
Deciding to have a baby is like planning a trip to Australia. You’ve heard it’s a wonderful place, you’ve read many guidebooks and feel certain you’re ready to go. Everyone you know has traveled there by plane. They say it can be a turbulent flight with occasional rough landings, but you can look forward to being pampered on the trip. So you go to the airport and ask the ticket agent for a ticket to Australia. All around you, excited people are boarding planes for Australia. It seems there is no seat for you; you’ll have to wait for the next flight. Impatient, but anticipating a wonderful trip, you wait–and wait–and wait. Flights to Australia continue to come and go. People say silly things like, “Relax. You’ll get on a flight soon.” Other people actually get on a plane and then cancel their trip, to which you cry, “It’s not fair!” After a long time the ticket agent tells you, “I’m sorry, we’re not going to be able to get you on a plane to Australia. Perhaps you should think about going by boat.” “By BOAT!” you say. “Going by boat will take a very long time and it costs a great deal of money. I really had my heart set on going by plane.” So you go home and think about not going to Australia at all. You wonder if Australia will be as beautiful if you approach it by sea rather than air. But you have long dreamed of this wonderful place, and finally you decide to travel by boat. It is a long trip, many months over many rough seas. No one pampers you. You wonder if you will ever see Australia. Meanwhile, your friends have flown back and forth to Australia two or three more times, marveling about each trip. Then one glorious day, the boat docks in Australia. It is more exquisite than you ever imagined, and the beauty is magnified by your long days at sea. You have made many wonderful friends during your voyage, and you find yourself comparing stories with others who also traveled by sea rather than by air. People continue to fly to Australia as often as they like, but you are able to travel only once, perhaps twice. Some say things like, “Oh, be glad you didn’t fly. My flight was horrible; traveling by sea is so easy.” You will always wonder what it would have been like to fly to Australia. Still, you know God blessed you with a special appreciation of Australia, and the beauty of Australia is not the way you get there, but in the place itself.

I have to admit that sometimes I feel like I can’t even get a ticket on the boat….not to mention the fact that I am prone to seasickness…..BUT I do have faith that our end result will be even more amazing and perfect than we have dared to imagine.

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So Here’s the Deal April 25, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Elizabeth @ 1:25 PM

Okay, I think I’m ready to talk about it. The adoption issue. Here’s the bottom line: we’re not adopting from China. There you go.

The best way I can say it is that God has made it very clear to us that China is not where He wants us to go as far as adoption. At least not right now. This was very hard for us to accept at first. Very confusing to say the least. We really thought we were on the right track. So where, then, you ask? We have no clue yet.

This is obviously not a decision to rush into. I say that, and at the same time I am DYING to choose a country, learn all I can about it, and get through the paperwork as fast as possible to welcome a precious child into our home. So we have been doing loads of research and finding out more than we ever knew about international adoption. There are so many countries that I had no idea you could adopt from–I am embarrassed to say that I didn’t do this much research in the beginning. We felt pulled to China and the process was laid out so logically, it seemed great for such a Type A person like me!!

So right now, nothing is off the table. We really feel like we need to be wide open to wherever God leads us. This means CHANGE and UNCERTAINTY, my 2 least favorite things in the world. Every country has a different process, different fees, different travel requirements, different age ranges of the children, and not going to China also opens up the possibility of siblings. Oh, and depending on what country we go to, we may have to switch agencies. WHOA!!

Jason and I both really had our minds wrapped around the idea of a toddler aged boy with minor special needs. We would like to stick with that, but have decided to be open to anything. We have discovered smaller waiting child programs in places like South Korea, India, and Thailand. That excites us. There is also a HUGE need in Africa and our agency has an exciting new program in Uganda that is not off the table right now. South America (from the research I have done) has a lot of programs that are strictly older children and/or special needs, and I will be totally honest and tell you that the Eastern European countries make me very nervous and we do not feel a strong pull there. I have even researched domestic, and just the fact that we CAN have biological children, makes that a lot harder. Adoption through the foster system would be great if we weren’t so adamant about keeping birth order. It is nearly impossible to find a child younger than Isaac. So as you can see, we are trying to learn as much as we can and feel some guidance from the Lord.

The fact is an orphan is an orphan is an orphan. None deserves a home any more than another one–all 147 MILLION orphans worldwide deserve to know the love of a family. No matter their country, their race, their age, or if they have special needs. Our new outlook is that we are called to a child. Not a country or a culture. Pray for wisdom and patience for us as we begin the search for our child.

****You should know that changing countries does not mean that we have lost any time in the process. Once we finalize our country, our homestudy will be complete, and we can proceed from there.****

 

Compass, Please! April 20, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Elizabeth @ 3:42 PM


A friend in the adoption community passed this “fortune” on to me. I sure hope it is true, because we don’t have the foggiest notion what lies ahead of us. We just want to be walking in God’s will. Thanks, Joy!

 

A Timely Verse April 19, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Elizabeth @ 6:36 PM

What a great message we were lucky enough to hear this morning at church!! Our pastor started a new series called “Life. Money. Hope. Biblical Advice in Difficult Times”. This message was called “When Times are Tough”, and clearly, it was a message that could be applied to almost anyone’s life these days. We are very lucky that we haven’t faced the pain and uncertainty of job layoffs or home foreclosures, but our adoption journey has been tough–to say the least. And this past week was probably the worst week we’ve had yet.

When we got a piece of news on Monday that was devastating to us, I sat with tears streaming down my face. I cried for the new uncertainty this news brought and for the major change of plans I was about to have to face. But even as the tears fell, I knew, without a doubt, that this was part of our journey. Everything is going to be okay, and we will eventually end up where we are supposed to be. I am actually surprised at the peace I have about things–my real anxiety is that my PLAN has gone awry and God hasn’t clearly shown us our new plan yet…..can you say Type A?

Anyway….back to the message from today. There was a Bible verse in our message notes that clearly speaks what we have been feeling this past week. Check it out:

We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair. We are hunted down, but never abandoned by God. We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed. 2 Corinthians 4:8-9

My wish is that no matter what you’re going through right now, you are not crushed, despairing, or destroyed, because you know that you are not now and will never be abandoned by God.

 

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Have Your Way April 14, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Elizabeth @ 4:14 PM

Yesterday, things went kind of topsy-turvy in our world. It seems that God may have a different plan for this adoption than we originally thought. We are pausing to pray for guidance about how exactly we should proceed. We are definitely continuing on the adoption path, but we don’t know that our direction will be the same. We are really asking that you pray for us as we make some big decisions in the next few weeks. The only thing we KNOW right now is that God knew every crazy step that we would be walking on this journey and that He is not at all surprised by where we are right now. This bizarre path is leading us somewhere and, more importantly, to SOMEONE.

I added a new worship song to my playlist–You will hear these lyrics and understand why I have been listening to it so much recently.
Wherever You lead me, I’ll go
I want to heed Your voice
Whatever You speak, I’ll follow
I want to know You more
Come and have Your way

 

And Just Like That…….. April 10, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Elizabeth @ 2:29 PM


So here it is, what we’ve been waiting on for 9 months……you see that check mark? Praise God for the check mark!!! The papers came in the mail today–the fingerprints, the background check, it is finally done. We really do get to move on to the next phase! What a weight has been lifted off our shoulders!

So turn up your volume and dance all around whatever room you are in and celebrate with us! I put 2 of my favorite “sunny day, windows down, make me laugh” songs on my playlist so you can hear what I’m dancing around my house to!