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Belonging June 7, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — Elizabeth @ 4:54 PM

Adding another sibling to our happy home, has brought with it some turf wars. Isaac learned very quickly to yell, “MINE” when Matthew would go for a valued toy. I always remind him that everything in our house belongs to our entire family. Aside from a few very special items such as Isaac’s silkie or Matthew’s “teddy bear” (teddy bear is in quotes because it is actually a baby lion) everything is fair game and must be shared.

After drilling this into his head over and over (it belongs to our family, it belongs to our family), he is finally starting to get it, and in true Isaac form, he now uses this to set Matthew straight when he doesn’t want to share. I can tell you that just while typing these 2 paragraphs, I have heard Isaac tell Matthew about 3 times that a toy belongs to our family (hand it over, buster
being the unspoken meaning!).

While Isaac was processing that breakthrough, Matthew had another. We have been working on the boys learning the entire names of everyone in the family. When we tell Matthew his whole name, he always says No–Matthew, as if he wanted to ignore the rest of his name. As if just processing the Matthew part was enough for now, thank you very much. And I can understand that.

But the other night, we were at our aunt’s visiting with some family. Matthew was scribbling in a notebook and he looked up at me and pointed proudly to his scribbles: Matthew W—!! he said proudly, as if he had just written his name there. Matthew W—!!!

And just like that it seems he got it, or accepted it. For better or for worse, he belongs in our family, he is a part of us. And we couldn’t be happier.


6 Responses to “Belonging”

  1. Christy Says:

    Oh, that's so sweet! Thanks for sharing. Speaking of sharing…one day they'll get there (right?!? Mine aren't entirely there so this is a pep talk for me too!). ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Margie Says:

    Made me smile. It's lovely to watch your sensitivity to your children.

  3. Very cute ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Cori Says:

    This is such a sweet moment.I like the "belongs to the whole family line." I am tucking that gem away.

  5. Mom to 3 C's Says:

    I love watching the little steps he is taking as he becomes more deeply connected to the family.And, it must be a 3 y.o. thing, because mine tells his sister "You have to share." which really means "Give it to me!!"

  6. Sue Says:

    what an amazing and proud moment that belongs to your whole family. you all belong together…and i am sure it feels just awesome when that gets verbalized by everyone in the family.

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