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Adoptive Parents of the Year (Not) December 4, 2010

Filed under: adoption thoughts,mommy brain — Elizabeth @ 5:51 PM

Today, I mentioned to Jason that it might be fun to try to watch the movie “Elf” with the boys.  It always cracks me up every year and it seems to be such a family friendly movie, and I really had high hopes of us sitting around sipping hot chocolate and laughing it up together as a family.  He and I talked about it for awhile, going over different parts of the movie trying to think of any reasons why it might not be a good idea.

We knew there was no cursing.

We knew that our 4-year old nephew watched it and enjoyed it.

The only thing we could think of was the possible trauma of seeing Santa Claus being portrayed by Artie Lange.

But we thought we would go for it.

I popped the popcorn (while Jason settled in upstairs to watch the Auburn game) and about 90 seconds in, the actual theme of the entire movie dawned on me.  Adoption.  Buddy realizes he is a human in an elf world and feels an overwhelming desire to search for his biological family.  Ummmm, it’s kind of what the whole movie’s about.

Duh.  How did that one get by us?

As it was, the boys stayed interested for approximately 18 minutes (the time it took to eat the popcorn) and then dispersed, like I knew they would.

Don’t get me wrong–we wouldn’t have kept the boys from watching it even if we had remembered the main theme of the movie, but I felt like a real cotton-headed ninny-muggins for forgetting.


3 Responses to “Adoptive Parents of the Year (Not)”

  1. Grace Says:

    oh my gosh, i just had this same exact realization last week and had conversation with peter about it…we were saying it was so interesting watching it now and thinking about adoption…so interesting.
    and *gasp*! you’re not a cotton-headed-ninny-muggins!

  2. christine m tomberlin Says:

    I can see how that happens when you parent young kids…you get so focused on the trees (by necessity), that the forest fades away. But you have good eye sight, so all will be made whole.

  3. Sue Says:

    um…yep…just happened here too.
    we watched elf last year at this time as we were just entering “official waiting status”…and POW did the movie take on a whole new spin with our sensitivity radars going off.
    just the other night drew begged to watch elf…i reluctantly agreed…watched it with him in a constant state of “oh, dear…this is not good”. he made it until the end of the movie to make a comment: “why did buddy leave his brother?” so not sure my answer was good enough…i just stuck to the “facts of the movie” when what i really wanted to say was “you and leo will be together as brothers forever. no worries!!”
    (and how confusing at the end that buddy stays with his biological family and visits his adoptive family…and his brother is his half-biological-brother…etc.)
    i am going to lose our copy of that movie for a few years i think

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