Driving home from church yesterday, we discussed the upcoming school year. Not surprisingly, Matthew’s sentiments had not changed. His repeated litany from the backseat:
I no go. I stay you.
Later at home, I tried to think of how I could help him feel more secure about school. I sat down with him and asked him why he was scared. His language gets a lot more limited when we begin to discuss feelings, so I wasn’t surprised to hear him saying that he just didn’t want to. I asked him if it was because he would miss me and he nodded his head fiercely.
Remember when you went to Vacation Bible School?
Did Mommy always come back and get you after vacation bible school?
Does Mommy always come back and get you after church?
Did Mommy always come back and get you last year when you were in Ms. Collins class?
Yes. Mommy ALWAYS comes back. I know you miss me sometimes, and I miss you too, but I always come back.
He nodded slightly, still unconvinced.
So I got a bracelet. I tied it onto his wrist and I told him that if he missed me at school, he could look at this bracelet and remember that I love him and that I will always come back.
Now THAT brought a smile to his face.
MY bracelet. Just for me. Isaac no have one.
Only me. From MOMMY.
He marched proudly around the house. Later we went to visit with my mom and my aunt.
Matthew, tell Grandma and Aunt Chris about your bracelet.
Are you going to wear it to school?
If you get sad, what are you going to do?
Well. That went well.