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The Epic Battle Draws to a Close March 7, 2012

I guess I should pick up where I left off–Matthew and I in a stalemate over a bucket of pine cones.  An idiotic standoff that started simply because he didn’t want to carry his backpack from the car to the house.

Jason arrived home last night to a seething wife and a child sitting outside who had dug himself literally and figuratively into a hole.  I got Jason up to speed and told him that I was DONE and would not be dealing with Matthew for the rest of the evening.  Jason went outside to reinforce everything I had already said and to let Matthew know that nothing had changed.  He wasn’t coming back in until he filled the bucket.  He cried and continued to play in the dirt.

At dinnertime, I fixed him a plate and told Jason to take him some hand soap and a towel.  He could wash his hands in the hose because he wasn’t coming back in.  Then he ate on the porch by himself.

He was brought inside for a bath (where he got no time to play) and was put immediately to bed, with no books or stuffed animals.  Jason reassured him that immediately after school, he would be back in the yard to finish the job.

We weren’t sure how this morning was going to go.  Jason’s prediction was that Matthew would either be exceedingly kind and obedient or all out hell on wheels.  Thankfully, he was kind.  He hugged me and told me that he missed me.  I told him that I missed him too because he spent all day yesterday in the yard.  I told him that I hoped he would pick up the pine cones fast today so that we could spend time together.  He agreed that he would.

After school, he was escorted directly from the car to the backyard.  He didn’t cry but didn’t get to work right away either.  He hung out for about 5 minutes, waiting to see if I was serious.  After awhile, I glanced outside to see this…..

He took about 30 minutes to do it, but he was clearly enjoying himself.  The weather was gorgeous and he sang loudly the entire time.  When he was done he came to the door, beaming.  I gave him a big hug and said, “Good job!  I love you!”.

And I think he believed me.  Because now he should know–I mean what I say.

 

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15 Responses to “The Epic Battle Draws to a Close”

  1. Jodi Wells Says:

    Great job Mommy!!!!

  2. christine m tomberlin Says:

    Oh– I am so thrilled it ended in a love fest! All is well in the Wood household.

  3. You’re my hero! God is clearly giving you supernatural momma strength, because it takes a lot to stand your ground in circumstances like these. Love that it all ended with smiles and a hug…

    Reminds me of God and us…how He is always there with a hug and an “I love you” even after we’ve acted like a ridiculous, stubborn child.

  4. Yvonne Says:

    I always get stuck on the time frame part – what am I going to do when it is time to get in the car and pick Andrew up from school? or it’s time for bed? or whatever thing is in the schedule that has to be done. So this post is good reinforcement for me that you can stick to it and still do school pick up or bed time.

    And I love how happy it was at the end. It’s said that children are happier with limits – some (and I have a couple of these!) just test them again and again…

  5. Christy Says:

    Great! Hugs! So glad the stand off is over and that he will know that you mean what you say!

  6. Sarah Whitlock Says:

    I love reading your blog posts! So glad you were able to stand your ground!

  7. Joyce N. Ingram Says:

    So glad you won this battle of wills. He sounds like he is strong willed, and that is why God placed him with you. Where you could guide him in the right way. Love you all.

  8. Beth Says:

    You are such a good mom, Elizabeth. This will help continue to build his trust with you. GREAT JOB!!

  9. Jenny Says:

    good job! now what’d you gonna make with your pinecones 😉

  10. Cheering you on from StL! We’ve had similar battles here, but that one takes the cake.

  11. Kelly Says:

    Wow, way to stay strong. I have a feeling I might not have been able to follow all the way through to the next day. You are a strong mama! I love how it ended. Thank goodness.

  12. So glad to see that you were able to do this without spanking.Good Job!

  13. Barbara Says:

    Amen on sharing patenting duties with your husband! Sounds like you guys did a great tag team. Matthew learned that you are the boss, and that is good!

  14. claudia Says:

    I’m so late to this, but GOOD FOR YOU!!!

  15. Karen R Says:

    This. is. awesome. Way to go on the teamwork with your husband, and GREAT job not shaming your son!!! I will be remembering this as an example!!!


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