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A Glimpse October 8, 2014

Filed under: Uncategorized — Elizabeth @ 12:26 PM

As parents we all worry.  I would have to guess that parents of kids who struggle socially and emotionally worry on a different level though.  We don’t always have time to worry about grades and homework and sports, because we worry about friendships, relationships, and especially the future.

Will my child treat others kindly today?

Will they treat him kindly?

Will he participate in the give and take of conversation?

Don’t even get me started on the future…..

Will he ever have a girlfriend?

Will he be teased?

Will he develop meaningful friendships?

Will he even care to?

It can be a lot to process, especially when troubling things are happening.  Things that show that he doesn’t quite understand how friendships work.

And then we get a glimpse.

Jason came home from work on Friday afternoon feeling sick.  At dinnertime, he went up to bed and fell asleep.  Later, when I went upstairs, I found Jason asleep in our bed but saw something out of place.  I turned on the bathroom light to see better and I saw a red, fleece blanket laid over Jason.  It neatly covered him.

And the blanket was Matthew’s.

I told Matthew that I saw the blanket and asked if he put it there.  He looked scared at first, like he thought he might be in trouble.

I didn’t want Daddy to be cold, he said as he looked away quickly.

I told him how kind he is, and what a good son he is.  That it means a lot to think about what other people need.

And I thanked God for the glimpse.  Everything is not perfect now.  We still have problems, but Matthew instinctively knew to do that.

Sometimes those glimpses are the hope we need to keep slogging through……the manna from heaven that is just enough for this day…..not tomorrow, not forever, but enough to get us through today.

And enough to give us hope for the next day.

 

Goals August 12, 2014

Filed under: Uncategorized — Elizabeth @ 3:14 PM

There are a few bright spots to parenting a child with different needs.  I’ve gained perspectives that may have otherwise eluded me. 

Before Matthew started kindergarten, I couldn’t fathom him ever learning to read.  I secretly worried that it would never happen.  And then he started kindergarten and, voila, he learned to read.  And I realized that was the easy part…..for him.  The interpersonal stuff was harder.  The ability to roll with transitions.  The eye contact.  The give and take of conversation….of friendship.  That’s the stuff that takes work. 

So when asked to set goals for him this year, I knew that math and reading weren’t on my radar.  Obviously, we’ll do the homework and care about his schoolwork, but that will come in time, no matter what.  He will catch on.  What we are leaning into is the harder stuff.  The stuff that comes naturally to most.  The stuff that will build him up for future grades….and future relationships.

Here’s to setting goals.

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A Bulgogi Sandwich August 11, 2014

Filed under: Uncategorized — Elizabeth @ 10:04 AM

One thing I’ve noticed about the difference between a school morning and a weekend morning is the willingness of the kids to get up.  On school mornings, they lay in bed moaning, telling me they are too tired to move.  Whereas, on weekend mornings, I am awakened from a sound sleep by footsteps running into my room at 6:15 on the dot. A kitten is tossed haphazardly at my head because she is hungry and therefore I should attend to her, and there are excited requests to play Mario.

This school year, I’ve made it a point to try to wake up with enough time to cuddle with each boy before school.  Don’t be too impressed yet, it’s only the third day of school, but so far, it’s going well.

First I go into Isaac’s room.  He’s already awake, but still very sleepy.  He is excited to see me and he immediately pulls up his covers and scoots over.  I get to take over the warm pocket in his bed.  We wrap our arms around each other and he presses his face into mine.

Did you have a good rest? I ask.

yes he says.

I tell him about a dream I had.  I was in a maze and it was dark and scary.

I would have helped you find your way out, mama.  I’m good at seeing in the dark.

I lost my flashlight in the dream.

I would have found it for you.  I would have carried it and we wouldn’t have lost it.

My sweet goose.

My sweet mom.

We continue to cuddle in silence for awhile.

Let me go cuddle Matthew now I say and he reluctantly lets me go.

This could go either way.  On the second day of school, Matthew told me nicely that he’d rather be alone.  He’s still asleep.  I sit down on the edge of his bed and rub his back.  He cracks his eyes and his body immediately flinches in disagreement, like an earthworm being poked with a stick.

I keep rubbing softly.  Would you like a cuddle? I whisper.

Ok.

I lay down slowly.  I dare not attempt to get under the covers.  This is a delicate operation.

I tuck my face into his neck and he lets his body press in to mine.  Our breathing starts to line up. 

And then I sense another presence.  Isaac is standing next to the bed.

Is there room for 3?

I ask Matthew if it’s ok and he says yes.  Isaac wants to be in the middle, but I tell him, this is Matthew’s cuddle, and he gets the middle.

So we all 3 lay there, on the twin bed.  Matthew entwined in 4 arms. 

I tell them we are a sandwich.  Isaac and I are the bread and Matthew is the meat.

A bulgogi sandwich.  And Matthew thinks that is the best thing ever.

Not a bad way to start a Monday.

 

 

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Whatnot Wednesday February 8, 2012

Filed under: friends,Uncategorized,we so crazy,whatnot — Elizabeth @ 1:10 PM

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  •   I have some kind of random neck/arm injury flare up going on, and it’s hard to type.  Believe it or not, this injury first occurred when I learned how to knit, and now any kind of repetitive motion in my right arm or hand causes it to happen again.  My chiropractor is quite disgusted with my neck, so for his sake and mine, I will refrain from sharing my drawn out musings with you this week.  But I will share this.  Monday night, I played Just Dance 3 for the first time.  It was fun.  And hard.  And hysterical.  And a great workout, although I’m not sure if the dancing or the laughing burned more calories.  Here are me and my friend and neighbor John having a turn.  Rusty is filming.  Enjoy!!!

Need to clear your head?  Write your own Whatnot Wednesday post and link up below so that we can all see the randomness that fell out when you rinsed your brain.  Just don’t forget to link back here or grab my button–get your HTML on.